第2部分(第3/6 页)

　heaviest　burden　is　a　great　potential。”　Wouldn’t　it　be　overwhelming　if　we　always　had　to　do　what　we　imagine　we　could　do？　Nobody　has　the　time　and　energy　to　do　all　of　that。　We　must　make　choices　about　what　we　will　pursue　and　do　them　the　best　we　can　under　the　circumstances　（which　aren’t　always　ideal；　by　the　way）。

Not　Accepting　that　there　Are　Real　Limits　to　Your　Abilities

The　idea　that　you　should　always　be　able　to　attain　your　goals　as　long　as　you　work　hard　enough　is　another　factor　interfering　with　self…acceptance。　You　will　reach　many　of　your　goals　and　should　give　yourself　credit　for　having　done　so。 Some　of　us　have　trouble　seeing　our　successes　because　we　focus　so　much　on　our　failures　and　many　times　the　failures　e　after　a　lot　of　hard　work　and　personal　suffering。　It　seems　that　all　that　hard　work　should　pay　off　in　our　having　reaching　the　goal　we　set　out　to　achieve。　It　is　hard　to　accept　that　a　given　goal　may　be　out　of　our　reach　and　that　may　be　because　of　many　factors；　including　the　fact　that　we　may　not　have　the　talent　or　skill　needed　to　reach　the　goal。　Of　course　there　may　be　other　factors　in　operation　that　make　the　achieving　of　that　goal　at　that　time　impossible—　health　concerns；　financial　problems；　family　difficulties；　extraneous　stressors；　or　any　number　of　other　factors　acting　alone　or　together。　The　real　trick　to　self…acceptance　is　to　see　that　the　goal　is　unattainable；　at　least　for　now；　and　shifting　your　focus　to　acplishing　what　you　can　acplish　under　the　circumstances。　That　could　include　evaluating　your　original　goal　and　deciding　whether　or　not　to　continue　with　it。　It　also　means　giving　yourself　credit　for　what　you　have　acplished　and　what　you　have　learned　from　your　experiences。

The　parison　Trap

Judging　yourself　by　what　others　have　acplished　is　a　sure　w